Time with your Spouse

I was watching, well really listening to "The Talk" this afternoon. They posed a question today that is always debatable.

When you retire could you suddenly spend 24/7 with your spouse?

I had to laugh as I sat and finished quilting my floral pinwheel quilt and listened to these women basically say they would hate to have to spend 24/7 with their husbands when they retire. I kind of felt bad for them. I personally can't wait till my husband is at a point in life where he could stay home with me. I enjoy his three day weekends or the last two weeks of the year when he has more time off. I love the fact that we both love the beach so much and that as a family we go there often in the summers to spend time together. I love that when we have free movie rental codes we rent a movie, even during the middle of the week to get some time in. 

If there was one thing that my kids could tell strangers or friends its that we love being together. We love the in home dates we have, they occur often. I love connecting with him, working with him on the house, playing games, just sitting and talking. I love running errands with him- often I am just along for the ride and I may not even go in the store with him for whatever he needs but its the drive time and the talk time. In fact I think we spend time together enough that my husband was just caught telling my oldest this weekend that we are not always very productive because if things are busy during the week we don't feel obligated to work hard on the weekend, we would rather enjoy each other's company.

I guess it made me realize how in love we are and how secure with our own space and beings we are. There are times where things aren't always so peachy. Just last night we crossed wires over the phone- I had a stressful day, was not feeling well and needed to step back from our conversation. I let him know that I would call him back in a few minutes. When I did, probably more like 30 minutes later, my first words were, " I am sorry about the phone call, I just have so much going on and am very stressed." That was that. Maybe that is the key for us.

The Words, I am sorry.

So my question for you, "Do you look forward to retirement?"

Life and Moments

Today I found a little bit of myself back in line with where I wanted to be. I didn't get motivation to clean the house, more because I know my husband wanted me to rest, wanted my oldest to rest because he wants this cold bug ridden from our home. I did find myself thinking about patterns to do some quilts, watching a movie with my oldest, who was home from school, and fussing at the kids to make sure they got their chores done, which they have not done in forever.
I also found myself completely thankful that I had the day off.
I didn't have to run to work this morning and leave a sick child at home alone- which he is 12 so he can manage a few hours while I work, but I hate that torn feeling as a mom. I also got to enjoy his company too. My oldest rarely ever gets sick. It has been a few years since he has stayed home from school. It was nice to be able to just lay back and watch a movie and just have some one on one time. What I felt silly about is, why does it take them getting sick for my world to stop for them?
I am fairly busy, yet you would never know by the condition of my house, because I am not busy with housework- it is a wreck right now. I do work part time outside the house caring for a woman, I do make quilts to sell online and to people that order from me outside of Etsy or Ebay. Yet there are times where it seems like life doesn't slow down enough to spend a few precious moments with them. Real moments where I am not on the laptop blogging or responding to emails, where I am not cutting fabric, or folding clothes while a movie is on.
So in a way I was given this sick day of his to remind myself that I need to still set time aside for them on my schedule during the week, not just on Fridays, Saturdays or Sundays. Take a few moments and connect, maybe even in the same style that I do when my husband gets home. As they have gotten older it is harder to remember to ask about their day, or what they are learning in school. It is rush rush, they get home, get a snack, do a chore, do their homework, we eat dinner-as a family typically, then it is shower time and bedtime. Once in a while we might get a movie in or a 30 min show but yet just rush rush rush rush rush.
Sometimes my time with God can be the same way. I quickly read and am off and going to start whatever the day holds, so now I start my week with a refocused heart. To take time in ALL my Relationships- family, friends and most importantly God. I know I am not currently doing a devotional right now, or a bible study, my schedule has not permitted me to participate in anything right now. I may just find something I can do by myself at home though just for that added inspiration to stay focused and where my heart would like to be in trying to be that Proverbs 31 woman.
My verse for today:
Psalm 33:22May your unfailing love rest upon us, O LORD, even as we put our hope in you.